With our busy and hectic lives, packed with work, errands, appointments and social events, it seems like we need to make grand gestures to make our children feel special and loved.
Our guilt and concern that our children just don’t get enough of us drives us to spend thousands of dollars on that special birthday or trip to Disneyland. But, you’ll be surprised to learn that kids just don’t need a new tree house to feel special. In fact, making your child feel noticed, respected, listened to and loved is very simple and only requires 5 minutes a day.
Here are 3 simple, free (or very cheap) and meaningful ways to make your child feel special – In 5 minutes a day.
How to Make Your Kid Feel Special in 5 Minutes
“It’s not the actual activities that makes a child feel loved, it’s the energy behind them”, says licensed psychologist Dorris Jeanette, interviewed by BabyCenter.com. These excellent methods are quoted from a BabyCenter.com Article as well:
Create Little Morning Moments
“The morning sets the tone,” says Bob Lancer, author of Parenting with Love, Without Anger or Stress. “If there’s strife, rushing, or power struggles in the morning, you have a child who feels less important than other elements of the parent’s agenda.”
Cara Mirabella, who runs TheHouseholdHelper, spends a little quality time each morning with her 2-year-old by having coffee together. (His “coffee” is milk.) “We watch Sesame Street, the two of us cuddling on the couch, enjoying our coffee,” she says.
After taking five minutes for yourself “to enjoy the quiet of the morning before the stampede begins,” says Patty Wipfler, founder of Hand in Hand Parenting, spend five minutes with your child before anybody has to rush anywhere.
“First thing in the morning can be a wonderfully effective time to connect with children, especially when they’re going to school and won’t get to see you all day,” she says.
Ask For Help
Amy Oztan of New York, who blogs at SelfishMom, says her two kids “always complain that I’m on the computer all day. So when they’re feeling ignored, I let them pick out pictures and videos and help me post them to our family’s website, for all of the grandparents, aunts, and uncles to see.”
Writer Hilary Miller of Littleton, Colorado, says even though her son Nicholas isn’t yet 3 years old, “he loves helping me set the table or helping Dad flip burgers. And he mows the lawn with Dad — with his little plastic mower.”
Can you do this kind of thing for 5 minutes everyday? I’ll bet you can.
Snuggle and Cuddle
“Take every opportunity to impart security and steadfast love with the pure joy of your physical touch: a hug, a tickle, a single finger to hold onto. Get close,” she says.
“Set the alarm 5 minutes early,” suggests Wipfler. “Turn the snooze alarm into the snuggle alarm.”
Take 5 minutes everyday and slow down. Between washing the dishes and packing school lunches, go and snuggle with your child for 5 minutes. Giving your full attention to him and only him.
You can do this every night at bed time. Snuggle in bed with your child and just talk to him for 5 minutes. You can talk about everything, anything he wants to talk about. You’ll make his feel special, while getting to know him even better.